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Hi! I know you aren’t normally that 'bad'. Something must have triggered your inner evil to explode, and I know you won't forget the reason why you decided to go wild. The first, second or probably the third heartbreak you had must have made you a man hater. That feeling you had when you realized you were being fooled? The anger you felt when you learned you were cheated? It makes you want to crush the man whom you thought had loved you truly.
For so many times, you've stared blankly at almost anything. You look like a child in trauma, but you are in trauma! Heartbreak is a traumatic experience, you know that. This moment you cry because he hurt you and you hate him so much then you'll laugh at yourself because you hate yourself more for being so dumb, you had yourself hurt by someone who doesn't deserve a part of you. It drives you crazy, and at some point even destroys your appetite.
You won't eat your caldereta dinner because it is your ex' favorite dish. You hate all the Lakers fans because he's a Lakers fan. You hate going to your favorite childhood spot because he had at least went with you there once. You learned singing 'hugot' songs and you hate hearing love songs. You become one of those 'bitter' whose favorite line is 'walang forever'.
That's okay. That's normal. However, my friend, I tell you it's not the end yet. Get yourself out of that stuck up stage. You shouldn't hate men forever. So, how do you get yourself out of being stocked in that situation? I won't be telling you to forget your hatred. I know that isn’t easy. I'm telling you to accept the fact that you were cheated. Then tell yourself he doesn't deserve you anyway, and he more doesn't deserve to see you like that --- stocked up and fucked up.
I am writing this article not to teach you how to move on from a breakup. I know there are a lot of blogs and articles in any medium that can provide you better tips than me. I am writing to tell you to accept that you’ve been hurt, and believe that something better is waiting ahead. You just have to believe in yourself.
You’ve got to believe that you’re just injured, you aren’t dead. You may be in pain, but you are alive. I tell you, someone has rightly said that heartbreak is the best thing that ever happens to a person. However, you just have to first accept that not all persons are going to stay in your life forever; others stay just to teach you lessons --- sometimes, through heartbreak.
If you’ve accepted the fact that not all circumstances go as you favored, start telling yourself that God has other plans, it may not be as how you wanted, but it would definitely be for good. You may hate yourself through the process, but your self-hatred won't help you either. You've got to love yourself. You are imperfect. Everyone is.
Then start realizing that someone out there will see your imperfections, but will accept everything about you anyway. Don't be so absorbed with the idea that no one will ever love you again just because you were broken and stained. If a man truly loves you, he won’t try to change you or manipulate you. He’ll see your perfection despite the flaws.
You are beautiful in your own special and unique way. Don’t let a man grab your chances to happiness and fulfillment. If he wasn’t capable of loving you truly, someone out there is. Someone reserved for you will treat you right. When that time comes, you’ll be thanking yourself. You’ll be gratified you have had your heart broken. That time, you’ll learn that there was a better way in falling in love.
So don’t hate every man who tries to tame your broken heart today just because you were hurt yesterday. Take chances, at least now that you’ve had your heart broken; you would be more cautious and aware. Take chances because not all men should be stereotyped negatively.