No matter how long have you been in a relationship with your girlfriend, and no matter how happy she may seem, there are still a few things that she wants you to do, but she won't tell you.
In the very first place, why do us, girlfriends don't dare tell you these things? Perhaps because we want you to find it out yourself. Yes, I am admitting in behalf of all the ladies out there that we are complicated.
So what are those things that your girlfriend want you to do, but won't ask for? Gentlemen, you better take note of this list:
1. Listen.
On top of everything, listen. We know that you guys hate long conversations, but we don't actually talk a lot all the time. Sometimes, you just have to listen. You don't really have to give her advices or solve the problems that she talk about or pass judgment, just listen. The least you can do is to constantly ask her 'then?' or 'next?' or 'what happened?', after all, you've got two ears and one mouth, you might want to use it in proportion. It's no big deal right? Right.
2. Send letters.
A love letter is worth a thousand sweet text messages. There is nothing sweeter than a man who gives love letters. Mind you, it is even sweeter than the bouquet you bought for her from that flower shop on your anniversary. Talk about the effort and the challenge of having to write the letter legibly and elegantly, as we know most guys aren't gifted with nice handwriting. There is really something great in being old school, you know.
2. Send letters.
A love letter is worth a thousand sweet text messages. There is nothing sweeter than a man who gives love letters. Mind you, it is even sweeter than the bouquet you bought for her from that flower shop on your anniversary. Talk about the effort and the challenge of having to write the letter legibly and elegantly, as we know most guys aren't gifted with nice handwriting. There is really something great in being old school, you know.
3. Surprise her.
I particularly asked some of my girl friends when I tried writing this article and most of 'em mentioned surprises. Well, who doesn't like surprises from the most common like flowers or chocolates or teddy bear to the most unique? All of us, ladies love surprises. You might want to treat your girl to dinner that you've long planned and reserved. Yes, planned dinner is a wonderful idea. Not something you'd start with 'Where do you want?'. Wouldn't it be sweet if you'll just take her hand and lead her to where you've set that planned exclusive dinner? Romantic, right? Right.
I particularly asked some of my girl friends when I tried writing this article and most of 'em mentioned surprises. Well, who doesn't like surprises from the most common like flowers or chocolates or teddy bear to the most unique? All of us, ladies love surprises. You might want to treat your girl to dinner that you've long planned and reserved. Yes, planned dinner is a wonderful idea. Not something you'd start with 'Where do you want?'. Wouldn't it be sweet if you'll just take her hand and lead her to where you've set that planned exclusive dinner? Romantic, right? Right.
4. Keep the intimacy.
www.counseling.ufl.edu defines intimacy as a process – not a thing. It takes place over time and is not stagnant. In fact, any kind of stagnation in a relationship kills intimacy. Intimacy by all means is nothing sexual. Your girlfriend or wife might not tell you, but you must know how much she wants those long hugs that last for 20 seconds straight. How do you keep this intimacy? Hold her hand while walking; hold her waist; compliment her; say 'I Love You' to her while looking deeply into her eyes; go for long walks with her; do something together. One more thing, don't miss that good morning and goodnight text messages. It makes her feel taken cared. There are a lot of things you can do to keep your love burning, be intimate, do more things with her.
Bonus tip: Ladies really want the idea that you're the one who'll initiate to take a picture of both of you together.
5. Take her side.
Take your stand for her. When she is going through hard times, take her side. Comfort her and assure her she have you by her side.
This here can actually be taken literally, when I say literally, when you are outside, and surrounded with many women, lust exclusively for her. Well you might hear her say it's alright for her if you check on other girls. Some girls act cool about it, but reality is -- they don't. Your girl knows she isn't perfect, but each time you comment on another lady's perfect attributes, her self esteem and confidence lowers.
Bonus tip: Ladies really want the idea that you're the one who'll initiate to take a picture of both of you together.
5. Take her side.
Take your stand for her. When she is going through hard times, take her side. Comfort her and assure her she have you by her side.
This here can actually be taken literally, when I say literally, when you are outside, and surrounded with many women, lust exclusively for her. Well you might hear her say it's alright for her if you check on other girls. Some girls act cool about it, but reality is -- they don't. Your girl knows she isn't perfect, but each time you comment on another lady's perfect attributes, her self esteem and confidence lowers.
6. Make your feelings apparent.
If you really love her, don't be shy in showing how you feel for her to other people. Some guys keep distant with his girl when he sees someone he knows is coming there way. That is one of the most offensive and heartbreaking act a guy can ever do his girl. You might want to kiss her or at least hold her in front of some girls you know. It will make her feel special and loved. It lets her know that you are proud to have her.
If you really love her, don't be shy in showing how you feel for her to other people. Some guys keep distant with his girl when he sees someone he knows is coming there way. That is one of the most offensive and heartbreaking act a guy can ever do his girl. You might want to kiss her or at least hold her in front of some girls you know. It will make her feel special and loved. It lets her know that you are proud to have her.
7. Show grand gestures.
When you love her. Love her. Show it. Remember those times when you were still courting her? You wanted to go out of your way to impress her or surprise her. She might still want you to continue doing it to her. Those random stuffs you did when you were still dating. Also, be familiar with what she likes. So when you buy her a mug, ask yourself, what mug fits her? Or you might want to put post it notes around her apartment and play treasure hunt. She would love simple, but thoughtful gifts. Customize if need be.
8. Be loyal.
You courted her. I'm pretty sure you made the move to have her. You must have thought how important it is to be loyal. You wouldn't date her if you didn't plan to devote yourself to her, aiyt? So please be loyal to her. Ladies are naturally loyal to their partners, you should know that. In loyalty, most guys break it first. Your girl will only find comfort from true friends she have. If that true friend happens to be a guy, wouldn't you be offended? So if you don't want her to be in the comfort of another man, be loyal to her and continue reading the next numbers.
9. Spend your time with her.
Your girlfriend or wife won't ask you for your time especially if you are a busy person. She doesn't want to hear the common phrase, "I'm doing this for us or for the future". Studies have claimed that one of the major reasons that relationships fail is due to lack of time spent together. When I asked my friends for this article, many said time is something they want from their partners, but won't dare ask for. Gentlemen, she knows that your studies or your work is important, but spending a little of your time with her won't hurt, really. Don't create more and more distance between you and the phrase "I'm not in love with you anymore".
10. Apologize.
When you think you upset her, you did. Go ahead and say you're sorry. Apologize to her and make up for it without her having to tell you. Remember that the best way to win an argument is to be the first to say "I'm sorry". Your relationship is more important than the argument you're having. When you do this, you're showing that her opinion is more important than yours. By apologizing, you make her feel accepted and loved.
11. Introduce her to your family and friends.
Your girl won't tell you this, but every girl looks forwand to bringing your relationship to the next level. Meeting your loved ones is part of this process, so introduce her to your friends and family. Invite her to a family gathering or a party with your friends.
When you love her. Love her. Show it. Remember those times when you were still courting her? You wanted to go out of your way to impress her or surprise her. She might still want you to continue doing it to her. Those random stuffs you did when you were still dating. Also, be familiar with what she likes. So when you buy her a mug, ask yourself, what mug fits her? Or you might want to put post it notes around her apartment and play treasure hunt. She would love simple, but thoughtful gifts. Customize if need be.
8. Be loyal.
You courted her. I'm pretty sure you made the move to have her. You must have thought how important it is to be loyal. You wouldn't date her if you didn't plan to devote yourself to her, aiyt? So please be loyal to her. Ladies are naturally loyal to their partners, you should know that. In loyalty, most guys break it first. Your girl will only find comfort from true friends she have. If that true friend happens to be a guy, wouldn't you be offended? So if you don't want her to be in the comfort of another man, be loyal to her and continue reading the next numbers.
9. Spend your time with her.
Your girlfriend or wife won't ask you for your time especially if you are a busy person. She doesn't want to hear the common phrase, "I'm doing this for us or for the future". Studies have claimed that one of the major reasons that relationships fail is due to lack of time spent together. When I asked my friends for this article, many said time is something they want from their partners, but won't dare ask for. Gentlemen, she knows that your studies or your work is important, but spending a little of your time with her won't hurt, really. Don't create more and more distance between you and the phrase "I'm not in love with you anymore".
10. Apologize.
When you think you upset her, you did. Go ahead and say you're sorry. Apologize to her and make up for it without her having to tell you. Remember that the best way to win an argument is to be the first to say "I'm sorry". Your relationship is more important than the argument you're having. When you do this, you're showing that her opinion is more important than yours. By apologizing, you make her feel accepted and loved.
11. Introduce her to your family and friends.
Your girl won't tell you this, but every girl looks forwand to bringing your relationship to the next level. Meeting your loved ones is part of this process, so introduce her to your friends and family. Invite her to a family gathering or a party with your friends.
12. Love her with all your heart.
If you've mastered the act of loving her, then you will have to skip numbers one to 11. The bottomline of this article is this-- love her. Simple.
This is a list that may guide you in understanding your partner. I might have not listed everything, but you can at least use this and add your bunch.
So ladies, what are the things that you want your man do to you, but you won't ask for? Comment below and let's have a little chit chat.
If you've mastered the act of loving her, then you will have to skip numbers one to 11. The bottomline of this article is this-- love her. Simple.
This is a list that may guide you in understanding your partner. I might have not listed everything, but you can at least use this and add your bunch.
So ladies, what are the things that you want your man do to you, but you won't ask for? Comment below and let's have a little chit chat.