"This is the last chance I'm giving."
That must be the most repeated lie every person blinded by so-called love has ever said. Been there, done that. I am just one of the thousands, probably millions of people who again and again lied to themselves about giving their lovers what they said were last chances. What. A. Big. MISTAKE.
That must be the most repeated lie every person blinded by so-called love has ever said. Been there, done that. I am just one of the thousands, probably millions of people who again and again lied to themselves about giving their lovers what they said were last chances. What. A. Big. MISTAKE.
True enough, I learned. The painful truth, I learned only after a long time. A very long time, I can even be tagged a martyr. The span of time doesn't matter, what's important is I learned. PERIOD.
Since I have gone out of the rehabilitation called moving on, and I'm now living a beautiful life, I feel obliged to tell you why once is enough.
You just blurted out the words 'I have had enough'. Don't allow yourself to think otherwise. You won't just say those words out of rage because your boyfriend fail to answer your call or your girlfriend forgot to tell you she has an appointment, would you?
You say it because you mean it. There's a bigger reason behind those words. You're tired, and you're giving up. It takes a lot of courage to say those words, so don't waste it by just taking it back because you think you're in love and you want to give your partner another chance.
Why shouldn't you give your partner another chance?
Simple.
1. One more chance opens more chances afterwards.
Hey babe! You've forgiven me before, this is even not that serious, why not now? Then you'd start thinking it would be unfair if you'd give up on your lover for a mere reason. You'll start comparing, this is not even one tenth of what he did before, I shall make this pass. Time will pass and you'll just have that mentality which leads to number 2.
2. You will be abused..
True. Your partner is intelligent enough to be caught doing the same thing that almost put your relationship to an end. However, that doesn't mean he/ she will never hurt you again. If you give him or her plenty of chances he/she doesn't deserve, the tendency is he/she will repeatedly hurt you. Your partner may not do it on purpose, but he/she will do it anyway. And it's all because you allowed it to happen in the very first place.
3. You will be heartbroken again and again.
True. Your partner is intelligent enough to be caught doing the same thing that almost put your relationship to an end. However, that doesn't mean he/ she will never hurt you again. If you give him or her plenty of chances he/she doesn't deserve, the tendency is he/she will repeatedly hurt you. Your partner may not do it on purpose, but he/she will do it anyway. And it's all because you allowed it to happen in the very first place.
3. You will be heartbroken again and again.
If you allow yourself to be hurt again and again, you will be responsible for your prolonged agony. You should not fail to recognize the right time to stop your martyrdom when it occurs, it will just make you suffer from multiple heartbreaks while you're still in a relationship. That is saddening.
4. It wastes your time to a wrong person, lessening time with the right one.
If you ended your connection from the start, you could have saved yourself from all those pain. You could have moved on, and by now you could have been happier.
From the beginning, the choice was all yours to make. If you are frequently hurt, learn to stop. A relationship that gives you too much pain is not worth fighting.
You should fight for love, but above all, you should fight for yourself.